Is before marriage really love-or selfish lust? im a Jew4Jesus-i learned the hard way-repented & got saved

My husband and I are Christians and we had before marriage. I don't think it was right, but I think it was unavoidable due to the cirstances. We dated for over 2 years trying to get my parent's permission to get married. We were both under a lot of stress and it wasn't like we planned to have (never in a bed or anything like that). It didn't happen until a year after we started dating and we really did love each other. I think pre-marital is usually a lust thing but sometimes it is love. We confessed and repented of our sins and I regret having done it, but God loves and us forgives us all our sins. He knows we aren't perfect and mistakes are inevitable and He makes the best of them. My husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years now and have a beautiful baby girl!